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Hard out here  

MissDReid 36F
0 posts
9/20/2017 8:54 am
Hard out here


It's very difficult to find serious people of either gender on Meelp. The problem there is, it seems the most serious of the people on here are also the most desperate. I need to be attracted to you and for those of you that cast a wide net, I'm just not attracted... I limit my partners and only try to see people that limit theirs as well. Since having standards is sexy.

Having said all of that, I have been playing the sex site game for a while. I'm still fairly new to Meelp, but this isn't the only site out there. So, I've got a lot of experience. I wish I can say it's been all good times...

Since I alluded to it in my last post, I thought I would tell you some of the clever and hilarious ways I've been stood up. And guess what? It's all been by men. I don't want to hear shit from you guys anymore about women being flakes henceforth.

So, there's the most common kind of flaking. We're talking, all seems good and then POOF. Let's be fair, I do that too. I talk to a ton of people, it's hard to stand out from the pool with me. I definitely just let some people fall by the wayside.

Then there's the guys that take it to another level. We'll make solid plans to meet up at a place on a specific day. I will either message you and you never respond again (did you die?) so I know not to go, or I message to confirm, you confirm, I go to the agreed upon place, and you never show. This has happened to me about a dozen times. I never understand it, meeting with me will pretty much guarantee you a bj, why not come out? I've heard some amazing excuses why - my car died, work, even had one guy tell me he couldn't stop jerking off to my pics long enough to come meet me... Luckily, there's usually a bar when you agree to meet publicly. Where there's alcohol, you'll always come out ahead.

That type of flaking is A LOT more common with married men. I get it, you start to feel guilty and get cold feet. However, these are things you should probably think about before reaching out to me... What I also get a lot of from married men is we'll fuck once and I never hear from you again. I tell people I prefer single partners and they always wonder why. For these reasons, and also single people just have more time to see me. I hate seeing a married person and having to sneak around and find little pockets of time. It's exciting for you and that's fun, but I'm in an open relationship. All of my excitement comes from building our friendship. If I never see you, how can that happen?

People also like to ask me why I won't just meet at someone's place first meet. This comes from someone flaking on me! We were talking for a couple weeks, multiple messages a day. He seemed really into me which my ego celebrates. I decide to just meet him at his place one night. He tells me his address, I tell him I'm on my way. I get there to realize the address is just apartment buildings. I didn't get an apartment number. I'm messaging him like hey, which one's yours? No answer. I wait 5 minutes. Message again. No answer. Wait another 5 minutes. Message again, this time a little more angrily. No answer. I start messaging some other people I'm seeing, "How long would you wait?" They reply maybe 30 minutes. It has been 15 to this point, I'm sitting in my freezing car waiting for an apartment number. I'm still messaging the every few minutes, "Let me know your apartment so I can kick your ass at least..." I sat feeezing my ass off for 30 minutes before I left. At least at a bar, I could get a drink.

I did hear from that guy 2 weeks later. He gave me some bull shit about some bull shit, but it also took him 2 weeks to apologize. We never went anywhere.

Then there's the guy that stood me up after we already met. I went to his place, sucked him so good he told me he loved me 3 times (#skillz), and he wanted to see me the next night. I'm to come over at 8, we are messaging all day and I get the last message from him at 5. I still assume everything is good because he hasn't said anything wasn't. I head over, let him know I'm parked, confidently knock on his door and wait. And wait. And wait. And... Wait? I'm messaging him like hey! I'm outside. Nothing. I decide to go sit on a bench for a bit. Then go sit in my car. I give him 30 minutes before heading home. I hear from him a week later, he moved back home after realizing he couldn't afford to be here. That decision was made between the last message he sent and me showing up. He grabbed all of his shit and bolted. I never got a good answer for why he didn't tell me he was moving (he said he forgot), but it was impressive that he wasn't even in the state by the time I got to his place.

I'm yet to be jaded by my experiences luckily. Still always working on my hotation, still always willing to interview applicants. That's because for all the shit I've been through, I've also had some of the best times with the people I've met. Maybe that will be the next entry...

bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
9/20/2017 11:40 am

The life of a female Meelp member.
I've never been stood up. My main issue has been women not looking like they represent on the site.

If you come up with a sur way to weed out the flakes let me know.




MissDReid replies on 9/20/2017 12:54 pm:
Oh I didn't even think about mentioning that. Also a MAJOR problem for me

TallandHung67by8 37M
21 posts
9/20/2017 2:31 pm

I like the honesty! keep searching!


crypticxd 33M
78 posts
9/22/2017 11:31 pm

Thank you for not giving up hope and trying to make the guy who actually wants to build a connection with you and have fun with you! I wish I was closer to you!


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