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Changing for someone in the short term vs the long term  

Sebastyne 47F
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3/28/2017 5:23 am
Changing for someone in the short term vs the long term


People think about changing for someone in different ways... To some, it is logical to make a change for someone when one assumes the change will pay off in terms of a long term relationship, while others might adjust their behavior and expression in the short term knowing that this is just a short term relationship we're in, and we only need to tolerate this unnatural state of being temporarily. On a sex site, this is particularly important to know which way you swing.

I personally change (or hide difficult/weird/complicated aspects of myself) only in the short term, while I assume that in the long term, once I find the men who I love more than anything, I will be loved for exactly who I am as a person and a personality, but I do not expect that to happen in the short term with men who are here mainly to get their rocks off by watching me and by, in a way, imagining me to be something that they'd want me to be... And that is what I am here for, I enjoy being the object of men's fantasies, even when I know they are creating a personality for me that isn't entirely real.

You imagine I DON'T have childish hobbies, but I do. You imagine my home is sexy and furnished in a way that you would just loooove to see how I live, but that is not true. My home is not sexy for me, let alone you. (There's an area that is pretty hot, and it's not my bedroom. I don't have a bedroom which makes things awkward.)

My photos that I share here, although realistic, are shared with the mindset that I do not want to put you off by giving you The Worst Photos that can be taken of me but the best ones, you know? I expect my playmates to offer me the same courtesy, even with the risk of "looking a bit gay". Just to fit a certain standard, you know? Then again, I have a thing about ugly guys and what not, but that's beside the point of this post.

I don't really care what my playmates here are like. I may get a pleasant surprise that someone plays with toys for a living, or that they're full on into heavy rock like me, or that they breed dogs, or that they make movies, or draw or paint sexy nudes, or whatever... But I don't expect that to be the case. I am not looking for a long-term partner here, necessarily, I might find one of my ultimate lovers here - and I'm not going to be keeping count - but I also am not expecting that to happen. All I wish for is for us all to enjoy each other's photos and sexiness, without adding too many expectations to it.

Therefore... In the short term, I like beautiful photos of beautiful men, sexy stroke of a hard beautiful cock... But I am not quite as excited about gory, downright ugly displays of sexuality that simply makes you despair for the state of the human race.

And still, I love those same men drooling all over my photos and videos, telling me how much they want their cock inside me, and I am more than willing to give a guy I'd never normally sleep with that pleasure of entering me - depending on nothing but aligning calendar schedules and a place to do that in/at.

I joined this site a few weeks ago and reminded myself to not get too fussy about things and to just enjoy myself... And I have done that, thoroughly. I love this site. And yet... I feel like I again have to put in a fair warning and to say... DUUUUUDES. We're not going to get married unless you are freaking special AND also quite hotted up by the idea of polyandry!

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