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Rudeness - Incident #2  

Banana_Canyon 45F
0 posts
5/1/2017 11:15 pm
Rudeness - Incident #2


So yet another case of rudeness and ignorance surfaces. Tonight I took the luxury to chat with a member here (HOTLEGS47). At first he seemed decent, yet I realized he was standard and urged him to read my profile and/or find a way to, since he seemed to obviously be in the fog about what I seek here due completely to his inability to read profiles here. I agreed that I understood his reasons for not being a premium member here, yet explained politely how it was a disadvantage to us for him not understanding certain aspects of my personal situation, what I'm seeking and my requirements necessary in finding my match here. After all, (all due respect here) it's not my obligation to re-write my entire profile back to dozens of standards here simply because of their inability to read profiles. That completely defeats the point of me taking my time and effort in filling it out to begin with if half the people here are unable to read it, right?? Needless to say, apparently this member felt as if I was "selling gold memberships" here or insinuating that I'm somehow affiliated with this site's revenue building partnership (which I promise, I am NOT!). After an hour chatting, this is how the closing sentences went between him and I:

HOTLEGS47: ok , do you want to meet for lunch ????

HOTLEGS47: you can pick the place

HOTLEGS47: i'll buy

Me: Aww wish I had that luxury to just pick up and do so like that. Again, not to sound like a broken record here, but the disadvantage of you not being able to read profiles puts you in a fog as to my situation and requirements described in detail. Respectfully speaking, I understand your point of view from dropping down to standard here and can't blame you....but in doing so, it puts premium members in a bind because standards have no clue about things when writing. So it's not only frustrating, but it completely defeats the entire point of why I actually took the time to fill out my profile in detail if the person writing me is unable to read it.

HOTLEGS47: O boy are you selling a gold membership ? i think you are . bye

Me: Selling gold membersip? What are you saying?

Me: Why bye?

Me: I took the luxury in explaining things like an adult with you. Being a prior gold member yourself, please understand my views from a female's perspective.

Me: Hello?

From here I'm simply ignored (as usual) and exit conversation, only to go on and block this member.

Again, am I the crazy one here? Is it really my obligation to be premium, take the luxury and time in filling out a detailed profile, and be frustrated in re-explain to dozens of non-paying standard members here as they sit back, don't pay a dime and yet expect to be catered to from me for all details of my situation and what I seek here??? To top it off, now being accused of somehow being affiliated with the site in trying to drum up business just because I urge people to read (or find a way to read) my profile??? This is obsurd!!!! Yet I'm the bad guy.

WTF is wrong with people here?
Anyone else dealing with this same issue? Ughhh...

HOTLEGS47

notsure1949 74M
10657 posts
8/13/2017 9:19 pm

understand your frustration, should be honest about a profile and take time to fill in, true i am one of those dreaded no paying members, always get ambassador emails that can't be read without wasting points, some profiles do appear in full, others just provide the captions, ma tr paying for 6 months, but not sure if it is really worth it, people just chat and rarely meet, and then you hear about the no shows


Banana_Canyon replies on 8/14/2017 1:15 pm:
I also understand things from both sides of the fence, being the luxuries of a paying member vs. the basics of a standard member here. In no way would I ask or even recommend others to pay to be here, because as you've said...most times it's nonsense in that people usually are either fakes, rarely willing to meet, rarely serious about things and sometimes even get stood up. So I don't blame standards for not paying at all, but in turn that inadvertently creates issues here for premium members who actually want other members to read their profiles carefully prior to contacting them so that basic understanding and/or basic requirements are aligned. That's the entire point of a profile, to be able to read it and make a general determination if you're in the same ball park as what the other person seeks. Why Meelp doesn't allow that is mysterious...but after all, it's a business and that's all from their perspective.

The point I really make here is in the fact that if a person is writing to me and pursuing me in some sort of interest, then I would expect that person to fully understand what I'm here seeking PRIOR to that person writing me at all. Otherwise it's a complete misunderstanding for them right from the start...and respectfully speaking, I'm not here with the obligation to continually repeat my profile over and over again to standards who are unable to read it. And I don't like adding random standard members to my friend list when I know in advance that most don't fit basic requirements of mine, such as distance in most cases. It truly is a sort of catch 22 situation, in fact. I blame the site itself for allowing standard members to be able to contact premium members. This is where the majority of the problem stems from that makes it so very frustrating for premium members here.

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